You have a choice
Choices can be difficult to make because there are gains and losses no matter which direction you take. Our counsellors can help you work through your options. Make an informed decision. You have a choice:
+ Keep the Baby
Though a surprise, your baby can enrich and bring great joy to your lives. It has already inherited the mother and father’s looks, talents, and personality – this baby carries your DNA. You will not be alone in your decision and there is support available. Click here for information about how we can help you.
Adopting your baby out can also be a positive experience. You choose the family who adopts your child based on your preferences of culture, values, and/or religion. You can have as little or as much contact with your child as you want. Although challenging, it brings great rewards. It is giving your baby and another family the gift of life. Click here for more information about adoption.
Fostering is an option that gives you more time to consider whether to keep the baby or to adopt it out; it takes the pressure off the situation. Fostering involves someone else looking after the baby for a set time to give the mother time to evaluate what she wants in life. We are here to help you. Contact us if you would like more information about your options or would like to chat about your situation.
In New Zealand we value Maori culture. Strong family support is a characteristic of Maori life. Young mums will not be left alone with their baby. If a mum is not able to take care of her baby herself the baby may be raised within the whanau and given the care he or she deserves. In most cases parents, aunties or even relatives who were not able to get children of their own are most willing to step in closing the gap. Talk to your family and discuss about this unique and responsible option.
Abortion must be considered carefully and not rushed into, because it is not something that can be undone. It is important to be fully informed about the physical, emotional and mental effects of abortion as it is not without risk. Click here to learn more about the risks of abortions. Legally, NZ Law permits abortion if two certifying doctors agree that:
Your life, or mental or physical health is in serious danger from carrying on the pregnancy, or there is a great risk that the baby would be severely physically or mentally handicapped, or your pregnancy is the result of incest, or you’re under the legal care or protection of the man who fathers your child, or you are severely mentally handicapped.
Click here to find out how abortion can effect your health. Making the decision whether to abort or continue your pregnancy can be difficult. If you feel threatened or pressured about your decision, you can contact us for support or refer to Women’s Refuge.